MIAMs explained
MIAM FAQs
Clear answers to the questions we are asked most often about MIAMs, from what they are and what they cost, to who attends and what happens next. If your question is not here, you can book a free 15-minute call to ask.
Reviewed by Jess Knauf, Director of Client Strategy · Last reviewed 12 June 2026
About MIAMs
What is a MIAM?
A MIAM is a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. It is a short, individual meeting with an accredited family mediator who explains how mediation works and assesses whether it is safe and suitable for your situation. You can read more on our what is a MIAM page.
Why do I have to attend one?
In England and Wales, most people must attend a MIAM before applying to the family court about children or finances, unless an exemption applies. The aim is to make sure mediation has been considered before a judge is asked to decide. See is a MIAM compulsory.
How long does a MIAM take?
About an hour. Read more on how long a MIAM takes and how soon you can book one. It is a single meeting, not a course of sessions.
Can I do my MIAM online?
Yes. We conduct MIAMs online by video across England and Wales, so you can attend from home at a time that suits you. See online MIAMs.
Is a MIAM the same as mediation?
No. The MIAM comes before mediation. It is the information and assessment step. Joint mediation sessions only follow if mediation is suitable and both people are willing.
Book your MIAM
Ready to get started? Book your MIAM online with a named, accredited mediator, at a time that suits you. You can also use the free MIAM checklist on this site to get ready.
Booking and cost
How do I book a MIAM?
You can book online and choose a time that works for you. If you would rather talk first, you can book a free 15-minute call.
How much does a MIAM cost?
A standard online MIAM is £138 including VAT per person. A signed certificate, if you need one for court, is an extra £66 including VAT. It is free if you qualify for legal aid. Full detail is on our MIAM costs page.
Can I get a MIAM more quickly if it is urgent?
Yes. An urgent MIAM is £222 including VAT, usually within 24 to 48 hours, and includes the signed certificate. See urgent MIAMs.
Can I get a free MIAM?
If you qualify for legal aid, your MIAM and certificate are free. The quickest way to find out is our legal aid checker, which starts the process for you.
What is the £500 voucher scheme?
The Family Mediation Voucher Scheme provides up to £500 towards joint mediation about children. It is not means tested, but it is for child or parenting mediation, not for the MIAM on its own. We apply for it on your behalf after both people have had their MIAM. See the voucher scheme page.
Legal advice
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Attending your MIAM
Who attends the MIAM?
Just you and the mediator. MIAMs are individual meetings. Your former partner is usually invited to their own separate MIAM.
Do my ex and I attend together?
No. You each attend your own MIAM, often on different days. Meeting together only happens later, in joint mediation, if you both agree to it. More on who needs a MIAM.
What happens during the meeting?
The mediator explains how mediation works, asks about your situation, checks that mediation would be safe and suitable, and answers your questions. There is a full walk-through on our what happens at a MIAM page.
What do I need to prepare?
Nothing formal. It helps to have a rough idea of what you would like to sort out, whether that is arrangements for children, finances, or both. You do not need documents for the MIAM itself.
What if there has been domestic abuse?
Tell the mediator, or note it when you book. You may be exempt from the requirement, and you will never be asked to mediate with someone who has been abusive. Safety comes first, and screening is part of every MIAM. See exemptions.
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Your certificate and what happens next
Will I get a certificate?
If you need one for court, yes, an accredited mediator can sign it. On a standard MIAM the signed certificate is a £66 add-on; on an urgent MIAM it is included; with legal aid it is free. See the MIAM certificate page.
How long is the certificate valid?
A mediator’s signature on a court form is treated as valid for four months. If you have not applied to court within that time, you may need it refreshed.
What happens after my MIAM?
One of a few things: you move into joint mediation, you apply to court with your certificate, or you take the information away and decide later. Our after your MIAM page explains each route.
What if we decide to mediate?
If mediation is suitable and you both agree, the mediator arranges joint sessions to work through arrangements for children, finances, or both. You may also be eligible for the £500 voucher towards child mediation.
What if mediation is not suitable?
The mediator can sign your certificate so you can apply to court. Mediation is not right for every situation, and that is a normal outcome of the assessment.
Still stuck?
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